→ You love having time to yourself, but hate being alone without an Internet connection. A few minutes alone with your thoughts, and the unnerving question sneaks in: Hey—is something missing here?
→ You want to learn how to build a life you love, but you’re annoyed by the vague, entitled, and context-ignorant advice of self-help books. How do I ‘follow my bliss’? What even is that!?
→ You’re too tired to dig into the psychology & neuroscience on your own—and feel a little guilty for being dissatisfied in the first place. Why can’t I just be grateful? I have it so easy compared to other people.
→ You’re starting to feel grossed-out by the girlbossification and #TikTokMadeMeBuyIt of self-care. Uhh, what are you trying to sell me, exactly?
→ Sometimes you feel confident in the choices you’ve made (i.e. school, work, relationships) but mostly it feels like you’re "falling behind" in life. If you had just done A, B, or C, you could be much further along in your career; maybe even happier, or healthier—right?
yeah, us too.
does this sound like you?
"Just be yourself."
"Pursue your passion."
"Live your best life."
okay, but how?!
Some personal growth books insist that the life you want is "just a matter of mindset," dismissing your lived experiences in the process. Others focus on hyping you up, offering a pep talk that fades in potency the moment you finish the book. Still others take the pseudo-scientific route, using phrases like "research shows ____," without ever bothering to cite that research.
You've already read those books.
You already know that if you want make changes in your life, you'll need to understand how your brain works—and yes, citations are mandatory. That you'll need a lot more than a "pep talk" to unlearn years of automatic self-censorship while relearning how to play, experiment, and take worthwhile risks. You know that "dream jobs" are a capitalist scam—but tapping into meaning & motivation while paying your bills is real. You know you're ready to take your life off autopilot—and this book does, too.
what the people are saying.
Hey! Alexis here. Official blurbs & pull quotes from famous authors are great, but honestly? I get more excited about the DMs, emails, and personal notes that y'all send to me.
See that phone, below? It's a slideshow! [Ooo, meta.]
Click through using the right and left arrows on the phone to hear about Find Your FuckYeah from everyday humans like you and me.
→ Are you using a screen reader? Click this link for a transcript of the testimonials below (just in case the alt-text doesn't do what we need it to).
four hundred and seventy six.
Oh, that number? That's how many sources and citations I referenced in Find Your FuckYeah.
Four hundred and seventy-six.
Not, uhh...standard for books labeled "self-help." Some would even say I went overboard with the research. But you know what? You deserve a self-help book that's actually rooted in science, even if that science is constantly updating itself.
So, what do you do when your publisher (very kindly) tells you that have TOO MANY sources to print in the back of your book?
You make room on the Internet.
"game-changing homework in a cute package"
—a friend, describing the Find Your FuckYeah Workbook
If you're going to take the time to do a journal prompt, it better be worthwhile, right?
Not only is this book bursting at the seams with scientific studies that myth-bust classic "self-help" topics—it's also full of interactive exercises rooted in proven research (like cognitive behavioral therapy and positive psychology, for example).
Every single exercise included in the book —all 18 pages— are yours, right here. For free!